Yeah I don't wanna use it and I will never use it. But when I get older and have kids already then I might but for now, the 19 me won't even be doing any sex. The reason why I suddenly opened this kind of topic is that someone told me to take pills already. That person asked me if I had a boyfriend and told me that safe sex should be considered for teenagers like me. It was weird though because if I wanted sex advice, I'd want to hear it from someone close to me. Not someone whom I just saw or met or had eye-to-eye contact just minutes ago. I know that she's a parent and all and had a kid and what not but let my parents do the talking for my sake. I am well capable of knowing the wrong from the right and telling me that I will have sex soon is just wrong. I am also a Christian and I am well aware of what the bible says regarding the matter. It has been days already since the incident and I just could not stop remembering that moment. It kinda traumatized me and probably scarred me. I felt humiliated and I whenever I remember it, I still feel humiliated. what's cool though is how my parents reacted to the story. My mom just laughed and my dad just went silent (he's probably thinking of something to say but didn't brought it up). Anyways If this has happened or will happen to you or even if its not the same situation but a situation close to it. This is what I advice you to do.
1. Listen
its probably the best thing to do in a situation like that. Just listen to what they're saying and keep quiet. It's better to be the more mature one even if you're talking to someone more older than you. Keep your thoughts to yourself especially the negative ones
2. Speak up
Yes, after listening speak up. Speak out your thoughts and incites to the matter but be careful with the words you are about to say. It is better to filter your words first before speaking. By doing so your not adding oil into the fire but actually trying to extinguish it.
3. Look at it in a different perspective
look at the perspective of the person telling you absurd things. They probably had an incident before or they themselves got into that situation and just wanted to mess up another's life. Think positive. Always look at the bright side of things. At least someone told me to be safe with sex or someone proved to me that I know the right from wrong. :P
4. Share it
Tell the story to someone you're comfortable with. Don't solve things on your own. Sometimes a little help won't hurt any body. I've tried keeping things to myself before and I got the hang of it. But most of the time I want to tell my friends about it because I know that their comfort will give me the reasurrance that I need that everything will be alright.
5. Smile
just smile at the situation. That's what I did actually. You may look like a crazy person smiling in a situation like that but really it makes you more respectful and mature. Or better yet don't let people see your mad expressions. Give them a poker face or a serious face so that they'd think that you're listening to every bit of what they're saying when in fact you just want to smack them hard in the face.
So yeah... those are just my 5 tips on dealing with humiliation. You can use it with friends, family, or any stranger that thinks they're better than those close to you. Keep in mind that these tips don't always work for everybody and some of them aren't easy to do. But practice makes permanent and the more you see better things and keep things positive, the more you'll learn how to reverse and survive any bad situation you might be in. :)
April 15, 2013
Salmon Diaries (the obsession for a pink fish)
If you have read my last blog you would know that I love Salmon. oh I'm sorry I don't love it. I'm OBSESSED by it. Really, I would kill someone for it. I love everything about it. I like its color, texture, it's "melt-in-your-mouth" sensation when you eat it, and the fact that you can eat from baked to raw is just amazing. I am the last person that you would want to cross just for a plate salmon Sashimi. I would blank out and forget we're friends if you steal my plate of Salmon. I mean, that's how obsessed I am with that glorious fish. It's one of those things that I really praise God for. I mean, really thank Him for creating such awesome swimming creature (ok... sounding a bit cuckoo there).
I never really liked salmon before and for my family it was a fish that we really can't eat because it's not common in the Philippines. We either it bangus (milk fish) or tilapia but never salmon. My dad once brought us to a Japanese restaurant called Saisaki and its actually a buffet of different variety's of Japanese food. That's where and when I tried my very first sashimi. But I only sticked to Tuna sashimi before because it's what my dad eats. Anyway I saw the salmon beside the Tuna sashimi and wondered what's that? (this is because me and my family were really adventurous with food that we would eat anything were not familiar with) my dad told me it's salmon. Alright here's the thing. I already tried salmon at that time because my dad ordered grilled salmon when we went to visit my aunt in California so I pretty much liked the fish already cooked. So I asked my dad if the salmon sashimi is good. He said it was slimy and really fishy. He also said I won't like it. So, trusting my dad I didn't take any. After that whenever we go to a Japanese restaurant I would always picture Salmon sashimi as really slimy kinda like a snail or whatever so we never ordered it.
until this one day when we went to a Japanese restaurant and tried a sushi with raw salmon on top. At first we thought its something we never tried before let's try it! and then the magic happened. I tasted for the very first time raw salmon. It was not really a fillet it was just chopped up salmon on top of a maki. It was really good so we ordered the real thing. A plate of the best quality Salmon Sashimi. ok, do you know that scene in movies when they do something for the very first time and sparkles and lights go everywhere and their eyes just flash lights. I think that happened to me. It was sooo good! It was so good that I blamed my dad why he didn't order it before. Thus my first argument about a fish. But really it was really really good. After that whenever we go to a Japanese restaurant we always always order Salmon Sashimi. We also stopped ordering Tuna sashimi because it's not really a favorite anymore. It's always two orders of Salmon sashimi for us.
so that's just one story about my obsession of Salmon. I will post another of my weird stories here. keep reading and stay beautiful. God bless you all!! :)
I never really liked salmon before and for my family it was a fish that we really can't eat because it's not common in the Philippines. We either it bangus (milk fish) or tilapia but never salmon. My dad once brought us to a Japanese restaurant called Saisaki and its actually a buffet of different variety's of Japanese food. That's where and when I tried my very first sashimi. But I only sticked to Tuna sashimi before because it's what my dad eats. Anyway I saw the salmon beside the Tuna sashimi and wondered what's that? (this is because me and my family were really adventurous with food that we would eat anything were not familiar with) my dad told me it's salmon. Alright here's the thing. I already tried salmon at that time because my dad ordered grilled salmon when we went to visit my aunt in California so I pretty much liked the fish already cooked. So I asked my dad if the salmon sashimi is good. He said it was slimy and really fishy. He also said I won't like it. So, trusting my dad I didn't take any. After that whenever we go to a Japanese restaurant I would always picture Salmon sashimi as really slimy kinda like a snail or whatever so we never ordered it.
until this one day when we went to a Japanese restaurant and tried a sushi with raw salmon on top. At first we thought its something we never tried before let's try it! and then the magic happened. I tasted for the very first time raw salmon. It was not really a fillet it was just chopped up salmon on top of a maki. It was really good so we ordered the real thing. A plate of the best quality Salmon Sashimi. ok, do you know that scene in movies when they do something for the very first time and sparkles and lights go everywhere and their eyes just flash lights. I think that happened to me. It was sooo good! It was so good that I blamed my dad why he didn't order it before. Thus my first argument about a fish. But really it was really really good. After that whenever we go to a Japanese restaurant we always always order Salmon Sashimi. We also stopped ordering Tuna sashimi because it's not really a favorite anymore. It's always two orders of Salmon sashimi for us.
so that's just one story about my obsession of Salmon. I will post another of my weird stories here. keep reading and stay beautiful. God bless you all!! :)
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